The best love spells you can do are the ones that are infused with self love,
love for yourself. If you are coming from a place of low self esteem, or a
desperate desire to prove your worth through the love of another person, then
you are not blessing yourself, or anyone else. If you are attempting to
"put a spell on someone" and make that person magically love you,
you are not blessing yourself. If you are doing anything other than seeking
to open yourself up to someone whom you can love freely and who can love you
freely, you are not blessing yourself.
Take it from someone who knows. The only candle love spell I ever did that
worked - actually worked - is the one I will describe to you now. After many
years of unfulfilling, sometimes even abusive relationships, I had that same
sense of desperation and loneliness I described above. It is only after much
spiritual and therapeutic work that I learned that the spell for love must
begin with self love and the understanding of what I truly wanted from a
relationship. Was it the excitement of living through someone else, or was it
the need to have someone listen to me and care about me? Was it money and
success in the world, or was it the need for companionship and comfort and
security?
Once I made those decisions for myself, I decided to visit a little shop I
had known for many years. It was run by a woman from whom I have obtained
many intuitive readings. She listened to what I had to say, gave me the
advice I just dispensed to you, and then gave me a spell candle kit. When I
got home I unwrapped my basket.
Inside was a candle that represented a man, a candle that represented a
woman, a love spell on parchment, and some oil. I read the instructions. I
was advised to do my spell on the New Moon, the time with the most energy for
new beginnings - but the instructions included the injunction that I could do
the candle magic anytime I wanted to. Now I, being informed as to the
benefits of astrology, knew that the New Moon was the best time. I also knew
that - after a terribly hard year, filled with a lot of unhappiness and a
very disastrous relationship - I didn't want to wait for the New Moon. So I
did it anyway, that same day.
I waited for a quiet time, then I anointed both candles, all the while
intoning my love ideals; what I hoped for in a relationship. I asked that I
be coupled with someone kind and generous who would be faithful to me. I
asked for someone who was ready and willing to accept my love. I attached no
conditions to the person about looks, money, or age. I simply asked that he
be the one person in the universe with whom I was meant to be, and vice
versa. His character was the most important thing to me, along with the
ability to be open to my love. I then lit the candles and said the love spell
over them. The essence of the spell was a request for the Universe recognize
my need for love, a statement that love is a human need, and a declaration
that I was as entitled to it as everyone else in the Universe. I added a
request that the right person be brought to me, regardless of who he was or
where he was in this universe.
While the candles burned I thought back to all the times I had let good
relationships go because I was unable to meet the needs of the people with
whom I was involved. I thought about all the times I had allowed my desperate
need for closeness to someone, anyone, lead me into destructive and abusive
relationships. I watched as the candles burned, and my candle, the woman
candle, burned the quickest. I felt as I saw it burn that it was crying. I
knew my soul was crying along with it, for all the missed opportunities I had
had in life and for all the sorrow and abusiveness I had allowed myself to
experience. I felt like I was being cleansed of all this as I watched my
candle shed purple tears and finally burn down.
As the candle that carried my name burned down and finally went out, I knew I
had cleared the baggage of the past from my inner aura, and made myself ready
to accept a new relationship into my being. I knew that to initiate a new
relationship while still holding on to the past and past energies is self
defeating.
It took a while, but I didn't forget my new vow to open myself up to the good
energy around me. I put away the negative memories and bad feelings I had in
connection with my past. I made inroads to actually meeting new people - not
just sitting at home wishing, but actually attending social events. With my
new revitalization, I felt energetically determined to make a go of things in
my life. I met some people that I immediately determined were not right for
me, or had the potential to be as unsuitable as those I had known in the
past. I was determined to follow through and the day came, about a month
after my candle love spell, when I met someone. He was older than me, didn't
have a professional job or a lot of money, but he had kind eyes and a sweet
smile. The minute I saw him I liked him. Not loved him, but liked him. We
went out for coffee, began dating, and eventually moved in together.
Has it all been bliss? No. Have we had problems? Yes. Is it easy every day?
No. But he is a kind-hearted, loving soul and we are committed to making our
relationship work. Is this because of my candle magic spell kit or the
confidence it gave me to keep on trying? It think it is both.
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