Mabel Iam is a recognized psychotherapist, advisor, and author. Eager to
share her knowledge with others, this TV and radio personality is the author
of numerous self-help books on topics ranging from astrology to sexuality. A
trusted source for self-help advice in her native Argentina, Mabel is now
making inroads in the U.S. Hispanic and English markets.
When lights are turned off and sheets tucked in and you drift into deep
sleep, everything seems to be suspended. This is the time when your innermost
desires and fears - those which you won't recognize in your waking life - are
unleashed.
Do you know what your true wishes and needs are? How do you make up for not
being able to meet your goals and fill your voids? Your dreams have something
to say about these things.
Dreaming is creating. Otherwise, how would you explain all those perfectly
constucted scenes and images from the most hidden and unknown corners of
consciousness, the very depth of your being? It is your soul showing, through
these psychological pictures, your innermost desires, your secret hopes, your
hidden fears, and your unmet yearning for affection, security, or solace.
Dreams free all these for you.
Impossible things come to life in your dreams. Your thoughts and wishes
become reality and for the length of the dream. For the moment, they are real
facts, sometimes seeming even more real than the things you experience in
your waking life.
There are several types of dreams:
Emotion-packed dreams: resulting from the tensions created by your unmet
wishes, failed hopes, and many fears dwelling in your soul. These can include
fear of death, of insecurity, of loneliness, and of failure.
Emotion-packed dreams usually take the form of nightmares: they are there to
remind you that you have slighted and neglected your inner world. Many times,
events on the surface distance us from our inner core. Our unconscious mind
reveals these images as nightmares so that you don't need to actually go
through them in the real world.
Transparent or lucid dreams: drawing from the wealth of the personal and
collective unconscious, these dreams are easily remembered and are usually
related to the dreamer's present situation.
Premonitory dreams: the bulk of your inner wisdom lies in your unconscious
mind, where time is different from the conscious, waking idea of time. For
the unconscious mind, everything exists in an eternal present time.
Sometimes, your soul needs to warn you against certain experiences - either
positive or negative - and it resorts to premonitory dreams. For instance,
they may warn you against certain conflicting relationships in your life
which, for some reason, you are ignoring. You then dream about the
consequences that the situation might produce. This kind of dream gives you
the chance to become aware.
Mystic dreams: These dreams show you psychic scenes, facts, or situations
revealing your everyday worries or just your beliefs regarding ethical,
moral, or religious problems relating to your spiritual life. These dreams
can also show angels, saints, or mystic symbols related to certain faith or
religious belief.
Erotic dreams: unlike our waking sexual and social behavior, erotic dreams
can be violent, crazy, gripping, or perverted because they stem from very
intimate erotic conflicts and hidden emotional needs. They are usually the
result of our fear of intimacy, and they are very frequent in teenagers or
people who, for some reason, are undergoing a period of abstinence.
Dreams are a door to the mysteries of your inner world. You can learn to
remember your dreams using certain techniques. When you do remember them and
pay conscious attention to them, you will create a bridge that connects your
unconscious activity with your waking hours, and your personal energy will be
more at ease.
Dreams reveal our true functioning, what is going on below the surface of our
conscious lives. If you wish to have a real knowledge of yourself, follow
your dreams.
Eroticism and dreams
How many times have you had erotic dreams you have been unable to understand,
let alone put into practice? How many times have you daydreamed about a
better sex life?
The language of dreams is comprised of symbolic representations produced by
the unconscious mind, and fueled by the energy of the emotional and mental
experiences of our waking lives. These symbols and emotions, translated by
our minds into images, reflect our current reality with all of its ups and
downs. The symbolic expressions in our dreams do not necessarily fit our
waking experiences. This is especially true of erotic dreams, where we can
generate infinite unexpected representations.
As stated above, erotic dreams can be quite different from our sexual and
social waking behavior. They are the product of very intimate sexual
conflicts and emotional needs hidden in the remotest nooks of our unconscious
mind. Erotic dreams can be frightening, joyful, or frustrating. The content
of the dream will indicate the degree of repression of the dreamer, the
latent violence - real or denied - that can't be channeled into social life.
And the meaning of the dream points to the wide range of possibilities the
dreamer has available and could enjoy.
Women and erotic dreams
A survey conducted in the States revealed that around
70% of the women surveyed had had erotic dreams some time in their lives, of
which a major percentage confessed to having experienced orgasms during those
dreams. The report also showed that erotic dreams in women tend to increase
in number in the time right before menstruation and ovulation and during
pregnancy. Women who experience these dreams usually lead a more restricted
sexual life.
Many times, women's erotic dreams are frightening, painful, or frustrating -
indicating the degree of latent violence being denied by the woman and which
clearly cannot be channeled through her social life. It is also typical for
women with a very inhibited sexual attitude to have dreams of rape or
harassment by strangers. On the flip side, women with a good sexual attitude
and a satisfying sexual life, but feeling frustrated in that respect for some
reason, might dream of having gratifying sex with somebody they know, or
somebody they are having fantasies about.
Men and erotic dreams
Men usually fantasize about and have erotic dreams of fiery, uninhibited
women who want them more than anything in the world and are therefore ready
to make all their hard-core fantasies come true. Men also dream of collective
acts of love-making, or orgies. If a man is acquainted with a woman who won't
pay attention to him, his dreams may show a reality where he dominates her
completely. Sometimes, men also have homosexual erotic dreams. In most cases,
and especially for adolescent males, men will experience ejaculation during
or at the end of an erotic dream.
Whatever the case, dream analysis is always an effective tool for
self-knowledge. In the specific case of erotic dreams, analysis can be a
useful tool for learning to handle sexuality with more freedom. Talking about
erotic dreams can help turn fantasies into reality.
Sexual magic explores the content of a dream with a view to increasing
self-knowledge, to achieving erotic ecstasy, and to a deep communication with
the magical partner.
Is it possible to connect to someone sexually in a dream?
Erotic connection exercise
During the first stage of a dream, our bodies are in a state of quiet vigil
and we tend to daydream. This is the stage at the very beginning of a dream,
or when we are about to wake up. It signals the midway point between
consciousness and dreaming. It's important that we get in touch with the
unconscious self at this time so that we can access the information and the
knowledge it possesses during our dreams.
We can learn to transmit messages and help solve conflicts through dreams.
It would be a great idea to do some creative visualization before going to
sleep (see Sex and the Perfect Lover). For this purpose, you first need to
breathe deeply and then relax, either with your partner or on your own.
If you are doing this exercise with your partner, you both should focus on
the reason or the issue your partner needs to express or observe in his or
her dreams. Both of you should be clear about what you're trying to subtly
put through to the other through the erotic dream.
If you are doing this on your own, remember to write down all the results you
get from this experience.
After having achieved the state of complete relaxation, try to focus on
reveal ing the sexual or emotional conflicts that you two are undergoing, or
to understand why you can't connect in your waking lives.
After this, repeat the following affirmation:
I (your name) want to connect with the superior self of (the name of the
other person -someone you're interested in or your magical partner) during my
dream and I will understand and remember the dream. When I wake up tomorrow,
I will write it down clearly.
You connect with the superior self of the other person so that you do not
telepathically disturb your partner during his or her dream.
Once the reason for your conflict (or the information you needed) has been
revealed, you'll be able to understand the problems you're having. Your
relationship will be more open, depending on what you're after.
You might be now wondering: have I had an astral flight to connect with my
partner?
The answer is no, you have simply searched through your unconscious files for
all the knowledge that the superior self can transmit to your conscious mind.
If you delve into the analysis of your dreams, you'll be able to understand
all the barriers sexual impulse sets on our consciousness.
Illuminating our inner beings has to do with consciously handling our lives
as a unique and eternal entity that transcends all conscious or unconscious
actions. Remembering our dreams allows us to make spiritual allowances for
ourselves. When this precious work is done with our partners, we are in a
position to experience a magical initiation of opening ourselves to the
other. Then we can shed the light of love on the darkest side of our hearts.
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